You’d think that, as heart-centered as I am, I’d love the idea of Valentine’s Day. But actually, it’s never been a favorite for me. Maybe because it’s so Hallmark-y. Maybe because, if you’re not in the throes of a passionate, romantic relationship, you feel somehow less than, like you’re missing out.
Maybe it goes back to when I was in fifth grade and someone left a dead goldfish in my desk next to all of the other Valentine’s cards.
On the surface, Valentine’s Day is all about hearts and flowers, chocolates and stuffed animals. But if we look deeper, the real heart of Valentine’s Day is about love.
And so this year, I’m proclaiming this as a day to honor the love in our hearts, not just the loves in our lives.
When we look inward, into our own hearts, love becomes an opportunity for self-awareness, self-care, self-inquiry.
When we look into our hearts, we are inviting personal reflection. We begin to ask deeper questions, like, what is really important to us? What are we passionate about? What sparks our heart?
Oprah Winfrey says this about passion:
“Passion. I love to say the word out loud just to hear the sound of it.
It resonates with me, causing me to think of all the experiences that fuel me, give me my juice: my work, speaking in front of 50 people or 5,000 and seeing someone have an aha moment, my great friendships, my dogs, the trees in my front yard, my wondrous, amazing unfolding life.”
When I first read Oprah’s quote I cried. Because I had no idea what I was passionate about. I was so out of touch with my heart that I didn’t even know what passion meant, or even felt like.
And so I started asking myself deeper questions.
1. What does the word passion mean to me?
2. How does passion feel?
3. Do I know people who I consider to be passionate?
4. What about them makes me think this?
5. What qualities define passion?
6. If I think about passion in terms of what fuels me and what gives me my juice, what else is passion for me?
Often, when we ask ourselves big questions, we answer with our heads. So it’s no wonder that we get the same answers, Or, “I don’t know.”
But if we get quiet, and go deeper, we can hear the truer answers from in heart.
I invite you to take some time and get quiet and really ask yourself these questions about your own heart’s passion. Write down your answers, and pay attention to any new questions that arise.
And if at first, you only hear silence, listen deeply to that. Trust that your heart is there, waiting to sing.
I’d love to hear your answers. Please share them below by clicking on the comments.
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Great questions to ask ourselves. Many thoughts that come to me, I don’t have words for. Your blogs are very thought provoking. As far as love goes, for some Course In Miracles reason, it is not “romantic love”, “partner love”, “relationship love” or “special love” that I feel. It doesn’t come to the surface as involving another human being, necessarily. Even after being in a wonderful marriage of over 30 years, having a beautiful daughter, loving family and friends, LOVE is so much bigger than that in my heart and through my eyes. I feel like a freak sometimes because of this viewpoint. On this Valentine’s Day, you have now got me asking a lot of questions to myself about passion and love. Apparently, a little o.c.d. is kicking in 🙂 x0x0x0x0x0x
Tracy, I LOVE this. YES! this bigger love. I love when I am in touch with it…when my ego life doesn’t get in the way.
Thank you for naming it and NO you are SO not a freak….You are LOVE!!!!!
Ruth,
This was SO timely! Thank you!!!! I have been trying to reconnect with my passion for life after feeling flat for many years. All of a sudden, things are starting to move in fits and starts. One day will be filled with creative joyful juice, and the next day, flat. But this is an improvement over flat flat flat! And the spark that is happening is growing, as I experience more of that joy and less of the flat as the week has been moving forward.
My passions are healing and singing, and I am in the process of creating a website to offer these things to others. That is exciting too!
I used to think passion was just about relationships, and when that wasn’t going well, I was flattened. I have been married for 32 years now, and it took me finding my OTHER passions for my marriage to start taking on more life again. As I feel myself being juicy about singing and songwriting, I feel juicier about being married and reconnecting to the love I have with my husband. To say that he is surprised is an understatement!
I love reading your blogs:)
Karen
Karen, I feel such excitement for you as you explore and share what you love. And yes, don’t most of us this passion is only about relationships with others. Our most important passionate relationship has to be with ourselves!