It happens to all of us.
We get a great idea. We’re motivated. We take the first step toward what we want and we’re cruising.
We feel excited. Rejuvenated. Like this thing could really happen!
And then something doesn’t turn out the way we had hoped or expected.
And we land in a pile of doubt.
Sound familiar?
Did you start the year thinking this would be the year of the Big Change?
Maybe you’re ready to find a new career or to pursue that dream you’ve always said “someday” about.
You made your list of everything you wanted, opened your heart to the universe and said, “Bring it on!”
Maybe you even found a great job to apply for. You revamped your resumé and aced the interview. But you didn’t get the job.
You feel defeated and so full of doubt that you wonder if you are ever going to live the life of your dreams.
If you are standing in that space of ready, and unknown, it can be very uncomfortable.
What do you do now?
What do you do next?
Is this even going to work?
Change is not linear. And big changes don’t usually unfold the way we envision them.
Often, when we are in the midst of big changes, it seems like nothing is happening. It seems like the OPPOSITE of what we want is happening.
And so the real question is, how do you move through these challenging times, when it seems that nothing is working the way you want?
Some people feel defeat. Others see it as a challenge from the universe.
This can be a time to pause.
And breathe.
We can use these times as an opportunity to re-connected to our heart, to our truest, highest visions for ourselves. To continue to say “YES!, this is really what I want, this is really who I want to be.”
And to ask, “What do I need right now to get me though this challenging time?”
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Talk with your biggest cheerleader about your doubts and your dreams. (Make sure this person is not a nay-sayer who says you should just be content with the life you have.)
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Hire a coach to help you regain your clarity and intention and motivation.
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Have patience with yourself, with the universe.
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Continue to be grateful for what IS.
Great post Ruth!
The times when I have pushed out to another direction and all the doors closed – nothing moved, I needed to find the lesson I was supposed to learn where I was. I believe when you seem to be stuck, if you find the quiet place in your heart and ask the question, “What am I supposed to learn here?”, you will get an answer. The path to unstuck is to work on that lesson. Sometimes the universe does not let you move until you have learned that lesson. The “stuck” is to get your attention.
David,
That is a great question to ask. And a tough one to sit still for sometimes. But I agree, the path to unstuck is to ask. Thanks!
Perfect timing for me, Ruth! I’m navigating through months of pain and discovering what’s contributing and more what can help restore my ease in walking….I’ve asked rounds of the question David mentions, “What the invitation in this?” and each time learn more and more.
Your question: “What do I need right now to get me though this challenging time?” takes me to basics quickly! Respectful self care, self love even when it seems “dangerous” to the inner child and especially coupled with expressed concern for others involved came through clearly today.
Gratitude is boundless for your choice to follow your bliss and all that’s unfolded from this!
I’m so glad I could offer you some guidance that will bring you ease and comfort. Self-care and self-love are so important! Sending you healing light and walking ease!