Jul03
Posted on Jul 3 by Ruth Davis
In celebration of FOUR YEARS of writing this weekly blog (!!!) I’m re-posting one of my very first articles, about how our thoughts often hold us back from our dreams. Thank you for your support, your readership and for joining me on this amazing journey! Imagine you are driving down a road, admiring the scenery, going at a steady, comfortable pace. You know you are on your path, headed in the right direction. Suddenly, you have to stop because a giant, thick-trunked tree has fallen across the entire width of the road. You get out of the car and assess the situation. Maybe you’re mad that you’ve been stopped when you were moving so smoothly. Maybe you try to figure out why the tree fell. Maybe you attempt to push it out of the way, see if you can drive over it or around it. Maybe you just stand there, helpless, idealess, stuck. It can be very tempting to get so consumed with what is stopping us, that we forget that there are other options. That we can...
Jun26
Posted on Jun 26 by Ruth Davis
I love where I live. I love my neighbors and the quirky community of retirees and working folks, weekend campers and full-time RVers. I love the laid back pace of the sleepy beach town. And, of course, I love having such easy access to one of the most beautiful beaches on the California coast. When I pulled in last September, I was very aware that, come the summer, I’d probably have to leave to make room for people who have long-standing reservations. So I made my own reservations at the RV Park where I stayed when I first arrived on the coast last August. Still, I was trying to stir up all kinds of mojo magic that there would be a last minute cancellation and I’d get to stay. Several friends reminded me that I would end up exactly where I am meant to be. And I realized they were right. So I stopped hoping to stay and started opening to what I could look forward to at the other RV Park. While the Morro Bay RV Park is...
Jun19
Posted on Jun 19 by Ruth Davis
My father is visiting me in CA this week as part of our Father’s Day celebrating. This is the first time in my life that I’ve lived someplace further than 30 miles from him (not counting crazy summers in my 20’s), so this is a new experience for both of us. My dad loves museums and science, and he wants us to see things that I haven’t yet explored on my own. So yesterday we went on a Sub-Sea boat tour in Morro Bay to learn about the marine life by actually seeing underwater through the big windows in the lower deck of the boat. My dad has always been the fun guy to do things with. Throughout my childhood, we went places together while my mom stayed home. Everywhere from Goony Golf and the Burger Basket, where we always ordered the fried shrimp and french fries and an A&W root beer, to Robert Moses State Beach on the end of Long Island, where he taught me how to fish. We’d walk up and down one pier and...
Jun12
Posted on Jun 12 by Ruth Davis
One of the many things I’ve learned these past few years is how important the voice is. When we add sound to our movements, to our thoughts, to our sentences, the energy expands. And yet, so many people are not comfortable making sounds, speaking up, being heard. Listen around you to how quietly some people speak, even and especially when they are talking about something important. Growing up, so many of us were told to Be Quiet. Many of us were told we had bad singing voices, so we should just mouth the words. And we have accepted these statements as truth, settling back into shameful silence. Until today. If we want to be heard, we must be learn to be comfortable using our voice. We must believe that our words, our ideas, our perspectives are valuable and worthy of sharing. And that we have a right to speak up, speak out, even sing out. Several years ago, a client shared that she used to love to sing. But her 3rd grade music teacher told her she was off key...
Jun05
Posted on Jun 5 by Ruth Davis
For those of you who are wondering, I did not get the cute cottage. And I’m OK with it. Like John Steinbeck said, “If it is right, it happens. The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.” And so I am re-focused on what is, what I need to be and do NOW to best support the work I do and the life I live. *** Our lives are so full that most of us feel like we’re always catching up or trying to getting ahead, move forward. Some days, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to pause. To completely stop rushing and doing and striving and simply BE exactly where we are. This shift in rhythm can open us up to opportunities to notice our accomplishments and revel in how far we’ve come. Instead of pushing further, we have a chance to breathe into the present moment and check in with ourselves. What do I REALLY need right now? What do I REALLY want to do? Maybe you need a nap. Maybe you need a...
May29
Posted on May 29 by Ruth Davis
A year ago I had a going away party, even though I no longer had a moving date. I had found and lost a rental property on the central coast, and had no idea what my next step was. I scoured Craigslist every day, several times a day, but looking for a place to live from 600 miles away is nearly impossible. Fast forward to today, where I have been living for the past ten months in my 24 foot RV across the street from the beach, 20 miles north of where I thought I’d be living, in a small beach town I didn’t even know existed. And I am very content here. LIving small helps me focus inward and connect with what really matters. But yesterday, out of nowhere, I looked at Craigslist again and found a most perfect, quirky, cozy cottage for rent in my original dream neighborhood along the back bay. I hadn’t even been thinking I was ready to move into a house. But when you follow the energy, things open and your heart beats really...
